We cancelled the May wedding and are now getting married in exactly 46 days!! We have decided to just do it with 10 immediate family members at a registry office and then head to hotel/spa for the weekend. This saves on the hassle of planning a big wedding and the expense of it all. I just want T to be my wife and we can still have everything we wanted, just with less guests which is fine by us, as we were not very keen on all the attention anyway. Maybe when they legalize gay marriage we will be in a different position and go for a bigger celebration.
One of the other big motivations in our change in wedding plans is that we have decided we want to start a family sooner rather than later and if we got married in May then that would be 6 months less of trying as for legal security we want to be in a civil partnership prior to trying.
We were initially going to go to a clinic and do egg sharing, but after discussing it we have decided that we are going to find a Known donor and do artificial insemination at home for a few months and hopefully it will be successful and it will be awesome, but if it isn't successful then we will have at least given it a go and in the meantime saved up enough money to pay off pesky overdrafts from our student days and have enough to pay for egg sharing if it comes down to that.
We have found two potential donors that we really like the sound of so far and we have arranged dates to meet them for a coffee. We are meeting one guy on Monday and he is currently the favorite (from emails and such like) so we are hoping we click with him. We have made it quite clear that we don't want the donor to have a role in the childs life aside from perhaps contact when the child turns 18, as we want to be the parents and we don't want a third party. We hope that we will be enough for our children and when they grow up they don't resent our decisions to not have the donor involved.We want our children to know where they came from but we don't want them involved in raising them.
Trying to conceive (TTC)is actually so exciting, overwhelming and slightly depressing when you consider your own lack of sperm and the success rates etc. We are currently in the midst of charting ovulation. T has to do her temperature every morning and record it on the chart and we also keep an eye on such delightful things as cervical mucous and cervix positioning. It is a minefield of amazingness really- last month you could see where T's temperature dipped and when her cervical mucous changed and it is really cool in a gross way. Perhaps the fact I am a midwife makes me more fascinated and less squeamish, but either way!
Hopefully by the end of January we will have little swimmers swimming towards the egg
Fingers crossed
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